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Nothing is "Good" or "Bad"
Emotions are running high this week. It’s easy to get swept up in it—feeling like certain things are absolutely, undoubtedly “good” or “bad.”
But nothing is black and white.
Our mind loves to constantly try to sort everything into neat little buckets.
It’s times like this that I like to remember the Farmer.
A farmer had a beloved horse that helped him with his work. One day, the horse ran away. His neighbors came by and said, “Oh, how terrible!”
The farmer simply replied, “Maybe.”
A few days later, the horse returned, bringing with it several wild horses. The neighbors came by again, saying, “How wonderful!”
The farmer replied, “Maybe.”
Soon after, the farmer’s son tried to ride one of the untamed horses, was thrown off, and broke his leg. The neighbors sympathized, “How awful!”
The farmer replied, “Maybe.”
A week later, soldiers came to the village, drafting all able-bodied young men into the army. Because of his broken leg, the farmer’s son was spared. The neighbors exclaimed, “How fortunate!”
And, of course, the farmer said, “Maybe.”
This story reminds us that we often don’t know the full picture. The mind wants to label events as “good” or “bad,” but sometimes what looks negative today is a blessing tomorrow—or vice versa. It’s our own interpretation that creates judgment, often far ahead of (and detached from) the reality.
Instead of rushing to label things, what if we took a step back and allowed things to unfold? Practicing this kind of open-mindedness gives us room to see a situation in its entirety—letting us avoid snap judgments and stay more at ease.
Next time you find yourself reacting strongly, try to remember the farmer’s “Maybe.” Maybe it’s good. Maybe it’s bad. Maybe it just is.
P.S. I shared a version of this on the Slow The Fuck Down Instagram today.
P.P.S. If you’re looking for open mindedness with the holidays around the corner, join us Sunday to prepare for the holiday season!
😄 Funny Business
📊 Community Poll
Results for last week’s question: What do you do when someone just keeps talking and doesn’t pick up the cues to stop?
Surprised I’m the only one who finds the first chance to jump in and end it! I feel the pain of those who let them keep talking…not fun.
One way to gracefully handle it…
Yeah this is better. Love it, J.
And two clever ways to respond…
Maybe even give them a demo by sticking it on their mouth?
Lol
On to this week’s question…
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Remember, it is not the events themselves that disturb people, but only their judgments about them. — Epictetus